Trauma Recovery

Why does life seem so hard?

It isn’t easy to get close to others, let down your walls, and let people into your life.

You put on a happy face, portray a perfect life, yet others have no idea that you feel unworthy and inferior.

You stuff down all your negative emotions until you can’t contain them any longer – then, BAM!, you blow up to those closest to you.

The ways you cope with these feelings still leave you empty and are now creating more problems. You are on the verge of losing control of everything.

Learning to cope is how you survived.

No one knows the hurt and trauma of your past. The message you received was to “buck up” and deal with it. If you talked about it, you received rejection and were left feeling shame again. So, you learned ways to deal with the pain and get through the day.

These ways of coping, although not the healthiest, helped you survive.

Unresolved trauma may have occurred in childhood, the workplace, or in relationships. As a result, your trauma has led to feelings of anger, fear, guilt, and shame that sabotage self-esteem and create barriers to intimacy.

You feel like there is no hope, and this is your last chance.

You made it this far – Now what?

You made it to today. Well done! However, your survivor skills aren’t working so well at this stage of life, and your relationships are a mess. It’s time to learn new survivor skills; let’s call them “Thriver Skills.”

You want to do more than survive; you want to thrive.

The old ways of avoiding difficult emotions and stuffing them deep inside don’t work if you’re going to thrive and succeed.